Kitobni o'qish: «Learn to be happy! Confidence and Success», sahifa 4
ERRORS AND SINS
Are you afraid of making mistakes and sins? Many people are afraid of making mistakes, sometimes not only people, but also entire governments. I once read that the Government of Uganda has banned radio broadcasting of weather forecasts. Ancient local residents mistook meteorological reports and data for government decrees and decrees and completely obeyed and worshiped the weather. When the forecast (weather) turns out to be inaccurate, they blame the weather, they blame the government, and because of that, people stop believing everything they say on the radio. They used to say that this whole government is a lie, like a weather forecast.
The Ugandan government found an easy way out of this situation. They simply banned weather forecasting on the radio. But I doubt that it was really the right and fair decision. And what do you think? However, this was a mistake made by the Ugandan government…
What is the point of stopping an action because we have made mistakes or because we can make mistakes, or what is the point of hating yourself and life because we have already sinned? We wouldn’t achieve anything if we kept stopping every time we started, even if we made a mistake at least once, right? We wouldn’t learn to love ourselves, love life, if we didn’t learn the lesson after sin and face trials, right? Of course, all this can be avoided, this is the best way. But is it possible?
Let’s say that when you were a little kid, you tripped for the first time and fell to the floor and thought, «This is a complete failure.» It’s nothing». maybe you would never have learned to walk if you hadn’t stumbled. Let’s say that after making the first mistake in an example of simple arithmetic (the branch of mathematics that studies numbers), you completely give up arithmetic, then you will never count money, buy things in stores, etc. b. you wouldn’t learn.
I believe that the ability to make mistakes is an important part of our life experience, and if we fear making mistakes and avoid them because of that fear, then we gradually lose all the good and useful things in life. Of course, you can push this argument to the point of absurdity. if we can learn from our mistakes, then we should not be afraid to make many mistakes, because the more mistakes we make, the more we learn. I do not propose to continue such an argument, to take it as advice, I simply say: you have the right to make mistakes, without mistakes and sins no one can be completely happy, to deny this is ignorance.
Whatever mistakes you made in the past, they have become an important part of your experience. Use them as an opportunity to move your brain and start life again: don’t give up on your dream goal because you failed the first time, and don’t stop what you started, don’t give up. Every mistake in your life has shaped your current perception. Bless your mistakes, they made you human. Thank them for their teaching. Remember: the main purpose of mistakes and sins is to stir your brain and give you another chance to start a new life.
Of course, even after reading my book, you will make mistakes, but you will learn and experience in each one.
There are no predestined, irreversible, irreversible, insurmountable mistakes and sins, unless you yourself give them the opportunity to do so. Repeated mistakes and sins will not happen, unless you allow them to happen. You will not be a slave to fatalism, if you can write your own destiny according to the truth.
SUCCESS OR FAILURE
Do you judge your actions as successes or failures in your opinion? I believe that most of the failures in our life are the result of our attitudes and thoughts towards ourselves, towards the world, towards other people, towards the creator. A person cannot achieve success if a person does not believe in it and is not confident. because for those who have courage and faith, the way always seems open. this means the correct attitude and thinking towards victory, success, success, increases his spiritual strength, internal dominance and superiority, and contributes to the creation of miracles and miracles in this life. If you don’t have the right attitude and mindset, why not start building it today?
In our ever-changing life, formed by a complex system, there are various external factors acting around us, and sometimes we want to shout that these external factors control our life, our situation. but in reality, we chose that life and situation as we like, and as a result we only do what we choose, because life is all about choice, success and failure. even if we don’t want to choose a certain path, we ultimately choose it because it seems to us the path of least internal resistance. we want to take the easy and easy way, even though we know that it may cause us inconvenience and trouble in the future. we will always have to make decisions: in business matters, in family relationships, in everyday life activities. We always have the need to choose, so it is very important to be able to make the right choice.
This is very important: when we realize that the strength that allows us to overcome any obstacle is within us, we stop calling for help. When the inner self begins to speak quietly (internal dialogue), we tune into the internal resources of that mind (mental power) (brain food information). The secret of this power is to understand our behavior, to increase our thinking resources (to feel how much it is limited by the slavish mind, to expand its boundaries). Only when we begin to understand that the power to do anything, to achieve what we want, is within us, success in life will come to us, this is our main success in life!
I think great people, people in history, believed that they had a great power inside them and with that power they were able to overcome all obstacles and difficulties. this force is stronger than any situation, internal or external factors. there is no power greater than it and they were able to use it and became conquerors of the world. I think that those who do not believe in internal power, but only in external power, cannot do anything great in this world, they come like animals and go like animals.
I’m sure the people who believed this were ridiculed by their friends and family, maybe thought a little crazy. they considered it vanity and stupidity, and they returned to the millstones of their ordinary, everyday life, turning it until they died, and at last they lived as friends with a sense of failure and exhaustion. but they, even if they felt it and knew it, did not tell anyone, because it is a problem of the inner world. in their opinion, this daily hustle and bustle, aimless action, unplanned movement relieves and relieves their inner restlessness, anxiety, fear, and general depression. do you want to be one of these people or listen to your inner strength? this is a warning, not a threat!
Start using the creative power of your mind. use the power of foresight, use it, because your thinking is a force (foresight), a swift current that makes you work. connect your mental powers with the universal unconscious that does everything for you and you become a super person. try to you will know that you have found the key to solving any problem in your life. In simple terms, this means: you can do anything you put your mind to if you put your mind to it enough to think you can! Let me say that again: you can do anything you set your mind to if you put your mind to it enough to think you can. In any situation, success and victory starts with your mind first. Everyone has the ability to clearly and clearly see the goal in their imagination before it is realized in real life, but only one out of ten of them uses it, and if you can develop that ability, any of your goals will come true and you can reach them easily and easily.
ROAD OR A WALL?
Do you see yourself as a road builder or a wall builder? each of us will either build roads or build walls throughout our lives. how do you perceive yourself? I found a short poem that explains this theme simply and beautifully:
«Great roads were built by sovereign Rome, To connect people, At the same time, walls were built, To separate, separate and protect, Over the centuries, due to human passion, All walls fell, But roads remained.»
Do you build ways, ways of communication, where you can meet other people and share ideas with them? Or do you build walls in your mind that separate, separate, protect you from others? I think all the materials and effort that goes into building a wall is a waste, it’s all a waste of labor and time because those walls will fall anyway.
The truth is that we are Creatures who must strive for spiritual unity with all humanity, and weak walls built to separate and separate from other people will never last long. But different in ways. Do you build paths that connect you with people? Just like the two arteries to the brain in the human body, you need them in your daily business and spiritual and social life. Do you have this relationship? How often do you talk to people? I would like to say that spiritual, family and kinship ties are higher than usual business ties.
Have you heard of empathic listening and the empathic method? Have you ever heard of the quiet boulevards of empathy? Do you want to be an empath? This is a person who has developed the ability to empathize. Do you build a path from heart to heart, paths of mutual understanding, paths of compassion for misfortune and sorrow. Does your spirituality begin with cooperation? Will you build such streets or quiet alleys of love and understanding, full of fragrant, white-flowered tree acacias (lookers)? There is no need to overwhelm them with words. They are smiling, comforting and these scenes are covered with tree leaves: «I know. I understand everything. I love you». Build streets and alleys like this, because they will last forever. Nothing can destroy them.
Take some time today to decide whether you want to spend energy, mental and spiritual energy building walls to separate yourself from your loved ones, or whether you want to build intellectual arteries of collective thinking, wide boulevards of empathy and silent alleys of spiritual unity. By deciding what to build, you determine the nature of your life. It can be a world of walls that keep you out, or a world of paths that you can travel to endless joy. The choice is up to you.
FATE IS NOT TO BLAME
Do you consider yourself happy or unhappy? Do you think your life is full of success or failure? When we think about our unfulfilled hopes and dreams, our failed grand plans, people often blame fate or so-called luck or bad luck. But this is nonsense (absurd)? Some people say: «This is my lucky (or unlucky) star» or «Today is a new life for me, a new day, a new me» on the contrary «I wonder when I will get rid of school, work or family again». Why do we say this? We speak to hide our shortcomings, mistakes, and sins from ourselves. We want to deceive ourselves with words, but in reality the life we want is not happening, or it is happening, but still there is a feeling of emptiness inside, as if something is always missing. Remember: We succeed or fail depending on the nature (level) of our consciousness.
I think Shakespeare said it best in Julius Caesar, where he says, «Sometimes men are masters of their own destiny. Blame for mistakes, dear Brutus, not from the stars, but from us alone.»
We die at the bottom, but in reality, we can be the masters of our destiny if we can bring our thoughts and actions into alignment with the creative purpose of our lives. If we can «attach» our thoughts to our purpose, then we become the masters of our destiny. But how willing are most of us to trust our inner guide? No, we prefer to rely on our judgments, our old habits, and when things go wrong, we are ready to blame God, fate, the stars, or anything else that has not lived up to our hopes and beliefs.
if it were possible to show all the details of the past, our past complaint, then we could see where and when we recently went wrong, and identify the point where we strayed from the right path to the wrong star. we would see where we had made an irreparable mistake. you see, we could have made a choice. And that choice was ours, but we can’t turn back that time, but we can fix all of our past, because we have the present moment and the future.
God gave us life as a gift and a test because he gave us free will. only we, as human beings, choose what will improve or destroy our lives. we can change our choices at any time and start a new life. do not blame the stars, anything, anyone for your problems, remember that you are created in the image and likeness of the «great truth», if you want to blame yourself, blame only for something, blame only for acting as a slave to the stars or some other matter.
Only our mistakes and failures hinder our destiny and there is no written destiny that tries to hurt or harm us. The «great truth» seeks one thing: to add to the absolute good (the little paradise) that is not yet formed in our lives. But the «Holy Book» with its seal, so to speak, the great paradise (the abode of absolute peace, purity, goodness, goodness) will not be established in the first life, although this does not mean that one should not strive for it. Therefore, the Creator uses various methods to save us from hell (the place of absolute purification and healing) in the first life: hunger, war, disease, etc. b. Consider the word hell a severe trial. In general, not everyone can enter the big paradise without going through a small or big hell, that person either passes through the small hell of this world or passes through the big hell of the hereafter and enters the big paradise. The abstract concept that people think of as happiness in this world is a small paradise, the Bible says that the small paradise, that is, the paradise of the world, has nothing to do with the big paradise. True happiness is based only on truth. Truth is useful knowledge and proven science for the will, spiritual light for the mind and light of faith for the heart.
In any situation we keep the elements of goodness, if you accept the truth of your situation, then suddenly the written fate is behind you and you know that everything will be fine in both lives. why? because we have joined the path of «common sense» which always leads to the right decision. everything we need is within us, we just need to be open, responsive and ready to receive the guidance of truth. the world wrapped in beautiful packaging
Do you like beautiful packaging (the outer shape of each item)? most of us like it. I had an interesting idea about beautiful packaging during a trip to a large store. I was looking at the goods I needed, and a lady was looking for a special fashionable soap on the next shelf. this was not a soap I would buy for regular use. The soap is wrapped in transparent paper, packed in a cardboard box, wrapped in transparent paper with a non-glossy and tight fit. these small soap boxes are packed in a large cardboard box and covered with a beautifully painted transparent film. it was all held together by a small paper ribbon with a bouquet of artificial violets. an impressive package of three bars of soap, and it occurred to me that its purpose is only to clean your exterior. then when I heard the seller smiling politely at the buyer and asking him a question, it really shook me, I experienced a great excitement. she said, «Shall I wrap your purchases (three trendy soaps) in nice paper like a gift?» said. I couldn’t believe what I heard. To be honest, at first I didn’t believe how to make it more beautiful, I couldn’t figure it out, but then I realized that whatever you buy in that store, they wrap it in a beautiful package and make a mouth-watering masterpiece.
Are there not many such situations in our life? For example, soap, a completely normal, healthy soap, but many times it is so beautifully packaged that we begin to lose the idea of its original purpose. The primary purpose of this packaging is to provide a person with soap for washing clothes. However, the soap was repackaged and repackaged several times, and as a result, the concept of its main function was lost. We seem to be more concerned with packaging than our own cleanliness. We seem to be looking for beauty rather than soap, but it’s all just a false, deceptive appearance, advertising, so to speak! Nowadays, our world has also become advertising, external form, beautiful packaging, without meaning, and the worst consequences – most of them end in seduction and deception. Nowadays (online) Internet is full of advertising, social networks are full of advertising, (offline) if you go out on the street, you will not find a place where there is no advertisement.
In our life, we often deal only with the external form, packaging (packaging), deception of advertising, wrapped in several layers, just like beautiful gifts, as a result of which we forget to have our eyes on the spiritual inner form, essence and content of the main world.
I want to talk about the meaning of life. We are very often busy with work, possessions, family, financial pursuits, and we can’t even stop ourselves, because of such excessive activities, we begin to lose the meaning of real life. Under the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we begin to lose sight of the true meaning of life. you are the true reflection of life, not external factors. it means that you are the true manifestation of the «universal mind», the divine power. don’t allow yourself to get wrapped up in the world of red-green, glittering, flashing, and then wrap yourself up again, so you lose the meaning of life and you yourself forget this basic concept called «the meaning of life». Don’t overlook this basic concept.
When you realize that you are the true manifestation of the «universal mind», you begin to live the destiny you want to write, and that life will exceed all your wildest dreams. remember: you are alive, the world is dead, because it turns to ashes at the bottom, and you were created to live forever.
LET GO OF THE PAST
I will tell you about a legend, because no one knows whether it is true or not. Once upon a time there were two men, famous or, more precisely, famous characters. These two discovered that they could make good money digging up the bodies of the recently buried and selling them to medical schools, and they did just that. It is said to have happened many years ago. It’s certainly a scary thing, but ask yourself: don’t you sometimes steal corpses from graves? I don’t mean to scare you, I respect you, but most of us do this without even realizing it.
And when you think of past, outdated, sorrows or sins, and you keep reminding them over and over, or worse, telling others about them, you are just digging an old, past, dead grave.
You know exactly what to expect from the past, don’t you? You think that you will correct yourself because always your unconscious wants to control you by reminding you of the past.
Live in the present, in the present moment, focus only on present problems, make plans for the future and leave the past alone, it is not your child, but you still don’t cut it, you keep coming back. leave it alone. be cool with the past tense.
The great philosopher once said: «let the dead bury the dead», I did not understand it immediately, after thinking for a while I understood that he was talking about the «past». Thinking about the past and living in the past means death. The more you think about the past, the more you will believe that time is limited and you will be deceived by time. In this way you will age and weaken yourself, you will bring your own death closer.
Allah: «Even if my servants ask you (Muhammad a.s.) about Me, I am close to them.» said, and God knows better than we do. So I think you know exactly who to ask for help in letting go of the past.
Make it a rule for yourself not to return to bad memories of what happened up to this minute, and stick to that rule. Don’t forget that stealing in the graveyard will cost you too much life. The past is gone, it’s gone, it’s gone: let it go. Here is the great secret to all our sorrows, disappointments, and failures: get rid of them (the past). Remove them from your mind, clear the debris of the past, leaving an empty space for a happy life, and let go of the idea that they are with you in the present. You see, the only place they can live is in your mind.
The present time, the present moment is full of interesting and amazing things, it is a great opportunity for everyone to use their time properly. Man, it is foolishness to spend all of your spiritual energy and all of your life on something dead right now, in this moment. Leave the past behind. Release it. Set yourself free. Don’t go robbing graves, reliving old mistakes, failures, and the like. There is a new day, which means there is a future. Learn to be happy and be happy that it will be okay. Leave the past in the past.
You were created for today and now, you have no other time, you live in the chain of «today» and «now», the past is late, the future is closed.
Today is the happiest day, the most successful day, the most successful day of your life. If you are freed from the past, know that you are one step closer to the truth!
EFFECTIVE WEAPON OF MIND
Are you trying to mow your lawn with a pair of clippers or open cans with a pry bar? Of course not. You can only do housework effectively with the most effective tools you can find or buy.
But how is all this implemented in life? What tools do you use in your life? Have you noticed that our every thought, every word and every action affects our physical condition (our health), affects the environment and people we choose, affects who we talk to and with whom we build relationships. If as a result of this we bring ourselves to things called unhappiness, failure, disease, poverty (etc.), then it is because we have not made the right choice and decision. Inevitably, this is a testament to how you use your mind.
Each of us has a huge mechanism of creativity. You can call it the palace of thought and imagination. It contains the materials we use to create what we want. One of the most effective weapons we use to shape our thoughts in the right way is the power of imagination, or as we commonly call it, just imagination. It is the power of imagination, the sum total of all God-given abilities, most importantly under our control and control. Sometimes it seems that our imagination, the creator of our images, is playing cruel tricks on us because it cannot observe our words and actions and relate them to our desires, so we abandon our dreams and goals, because most of us do not match our words or our words outstrip our actions.
But the rule is that personal improvement and success in business are always related to the picture of our imaginary image. Stress, illness and poverty (etc.) are symptoms of something broken in our mind mechanism. We form images of poverty or disease under the influence of external factors, these thoughts of poverty and disease become the power of imagination and hold them in our minds until the unconscious brings them into real life, and we are unable to get rid of those thoughts and images. In short, psychological proof of how a person makes himself poor or sick.
The best time to deal with any negative thought is when it first appears in your mind. This is the time when the enemy (evil thought, image) is at its weakest. But rather than fighting it after it appears, it is better to prevent it from entering the unconscious. (You can read more about how to do this in books one and two). Be a watchful guard of thoughts, let only thoughts of a creative and useful nature into the palace of imagination.
It is very important to «exercise control» by writing down your thoughts, you will learn to protect and control your mind. every thought is related to our character and actions, so by writing each of them, you will begin to know yourself, remember: every thought is an inner word, so it is not difficult to write a thought into a word, and most importantly, do not be afraid of yourself, no matter how bad the thought or word is, because you have to rise above it.
The only way to change your destiny is to change your habitual way of thinking. What do you often think about? At the right time, we take on great responsibility. We must always remember that our thoughts and words can affect the world we live in, either creatively or destructively. Do you constantly say, «I can’t take it anymore, I’m sick, I don’t have enough money, I’m so tired»? So, you are giving up your strength, health and prosperity in this way.
Don’t give up the happiness that belongs to you because of laziness.
Jealousy, anger, narrow-mindedness, hypocrisy, pride (etc.) and thoughts and emotions filled with sadness and grief and fear will cause your body to respond with disorder and disease.
Use the tools of imagination wisely and say to yourself: «I can endure every hardship of life, I fear no disease, I always have enough money, I do not tire and I have unlimited energy, I am in good and right relations with all people and myself.» You pave the way for health, happiness and prosperity. If you are an open and kind person, if you are loyal and caring towards your loved ones, then you will soon know that you are in the «Kingdom of Goodness». Every good thing you do to yourself, to others, life will return to you a hundredfold.
«ME» OR «WE»?
Have you ever wondered about the weight of the letters of the alphabet? Did you know that letters have weight? For example, what is the weight of the uppercase letter «I» compared to the lowercase letter «I»? In the first case, a person is speaking without confidence, in the second case, a person is speaking too confidently. Sometimes the difference in weight is like the difference between earth and sky. Examples for you: the «I» of a famous star is not the same as the «I» of a person who no one knows, who picks up garbage. Similarly, rich and poor, healthy and sick, etc.
I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but English is the only one of all European languages that capitalizes «I» in the middle of a sentence. they put a lot of emphasis on the word «I» when they speak. sometimes we give too much weight to this word in our life, but it prevents us from living properly. the weight of our self often limits our horizons instead of expanding our minds. I think you know what I mean. Someone sits in a restaurant and first complains, then angrily warns and scolds: «I’m so tired. I shopped for two hours. Where did this waiter disappear to? Otherwise, I will go and eat elsewhere.» My point is: the waiter has been working on his feet for more than two hours, maybe he should be a little more understanding and wait without getting angry or fighting. If visitors ask the waiter: «How do you handle so many tables at the same time and even in such bad weather?»
Have you ever noticed how we start to resist when someone’s «I» weight is bigger than ours?
A woman was angry with her husband because of her weight: «My shoulder hurt this morning.» Her husband told her, «My hand hurts worse than yours.» No one likes when someone else is in pain, because our «I» is very painful. If you expect someone to pity me, he will expect it from you.
There is an episode in the Bible where the Master decided to go to temporary freedom. Although his «I» demanded intimacy and solitude, people were against it. About five thousand people gathered, and those who were behind tried to see him. How disappointed he must have been! He could say that he came here for peace and tranquility. But he didn’t say that. He did not think about his comfort and privacy. He said, «Sit them all down.» He said: «Now what, am I going to be in the middle of this crowd?» No, he said: «Sit them all down,» and then he fed them all.
A characteristic characteristic of a great person is obedience to what is given. But I’m not talking about flattery. Although there are probably such among them. I’m talking about something else. You should know that the weight of «I» is equal to the weight of «We», and «I» should not overwhelm «We». As you move forward in life, try to find out how much time you spend putting «me» first. After that, you will notice that you have made many friends because you have managed to balance the weight of «I» and «We».
NEGATIVE EMOTIONS AND STRESS
Do you often feel anxious? are you worried are you afraid are you scared All these are called stress or negative emotions in one word. I like the story of a man who went to a psychiatrist because of constant anxiety. With the help of hypnosis, the psychiatrist was able to remove all his worries from this man’s memory and he went home very happy and cured. the next day he came to the doctor again and was very upset. «Doctor, doctor, I’m so scared,» she said. «what could scare you?» wondered the doctor. «Doctor, I don’t remember what bothered me yesterday, that’s why I’m afraid,» he answered. anxiety and worry still cling.
I think most of us are like that. we live in such a crazy and busy world. We have many diseases, arising from negative emotions, some of which we are ready to admit, and some of which we even want to hide from ourselves. negative emotions, stress lowers brain tone and destroys the ability to resist diseases and life problems. they kill without telling. make no mistake about it: negative emotions, stress are real killers. So why don’t we avoid them?
A simple way to avoid them is to not waste time on them.
You may protest and say that there is nothing you can do about it. Negative emotions and stress have become a habit, and a long-standing habit cannot be overcome in a few minutes. That’s right. I am ready to accept such arguments. But if you want to stop negative emotions and stress, then you have to start sometime, right? If you need to start, why not now? Even if you can’t beat your stress in two minutes, you have to start, and now is the best time. Try to make sure that you don’t worry about anything on this day. If you are worried about a certain future event, try to understand if you are afraid, what may or may not happen. This is a very simple life, and you have no reason to be worried or afraid. You have found the reasons yourself and if you continue to do so, it will only affect your life negatively and you will not be able to make any good decisions. If you want to overcome fear, then change your thinking: for example, you expect something, but it turns out not as you thought. That is, worry and fear are waiting for something bad. The reasons that create that feeling of anticipation should be removed from the mind and those reasons should not be visited again. For example, don’t think that by watching a scary movie, I will become brave and overcome my fear. fear affects your spiritual resources so negatively that you end up ruining your life. but if you can completely eliminate negative emotions and stress, even if the worst happens, you will notice that you will have enough strength and courage. you can face any negative emotions head on and resolve the problem through internal negotiation. a two-way internal dialogue – one is a negative emotion, and the other is an intention, desire, and effort to overcome that emotion.
